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On today’s episode we discuss smashing on the first date. Straight like that. Are you about that life, have you been before or this ain’t you chief?
The only reason a woman doesn’t want to sleep with a man on the first date is because she will seem or either be perceived to be a hoe by her peers or even some men and/or they feel like making a man wait will have him act better and stick around longer in hopes to know and fall in love with the so called real you which you yourself may not even be displaying.
Is it okay to… You know.. To sleep with somebody on the first date or even on the third? From a guys perspective would you be a hoe if you did?
We grown. Your grown. I’m grown. I don’t even know who set up and placed these societal norms, but, as long as you're being safe, smart and careful. Go ahead and sleep on the first date if you feel comfortable enough to. Shit. Half of us know if we want to or not or if we’re going to on the first date anyway. All that waiting is just games and formalities delaying the inevitable. Either your going to be together and click or not. Fling, rebound or passing by.
Now if you’re more traditional and that’s your thing cool. Too many people are having kids too young anyway and that’s fine. Different strokes for different folks. Life at the same time can be short though and your not promised tomorrow. So you can’t compare lives. But, if I can keep it real. Which I am going to do. Let’s not act like people aren’t out here swinging, cheating, looking and thinking about all this other stuff while pretending to be innocent or 100% all in and still experimenting and figuring out their sexual desires. Or is it even possible to not look and be aware of someone else while in a relationship. If your answer is no I’m completely faithful and into the person I’m talking to and don’t look at nobody else like that.
Well fellas if a lady tells you that. It’s bullshit. Please don’t believe them. Everything is to an extent I know. But, we’re all human. All can acknowledge some level of attractiveness, although different.
Case and point. You know what used to really get to me and can put things in perspective for you and help you figure out the type that you are dating.
If they’re into celebrities and movies. All of em have somebody they admit they’ll give it up to on the first date just from the personas they play in movies or from music and music videos. Some fellas too but I find this to be more common with females. You know how many Idris Elba movies I had to hate not watch cuz my girl wanna get wet beside me and be all into the movie and be like mmm Idris. Fuck that shit right? Or Drake this and Drake that. Don’t even know the real them. And if you catch anybody on the right day under the right conditions so many have folded even while in a relationship just to even see sometimes.
So while your on the first date not trying to see what’s up playing it over the top to be all chivalrou and innocent. Somebody else is in reserves that they shouldn’t be messing with anyway. Honestly, too many of us overlook the nice ones that we should at least give a chance and more attention too to entertain the ones we know we shouldn’t be dealing with.
So what am I saying? I’m not saying just go around having a bunch of one night stands. Personally I like to have more of a continuous thing with a person even if it’s not a dating relationship just to increase my odds of not catching something. What I’m saying is that we all may bounce around some more than others before we find someone worth that time and that should be okay. But when you run into that person don’t be scared to deepen the relationship either because the goal is to have good positive energies around you that are helping better yourself and life to achieve goals together. So I’m saying go with what you feel at the end of the day. Be smart, be safe. Make sure your getting into situations where you can sleep good at night and making decisions you can live with.
My job is to get you to think. Not to persuade you or make you think like me. But, just to question what is around you. Why are things the way they are? Why do people think the way they do about certain things?
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