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On today’s episode we discuss putting a ring on it. Do you deserve one or do you just want one to want one? Why are you not getting flewed out? Are you even ready? Are you selfless enough of a person to be in a relationship, let alone marriage.
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I am your host, DAME and you are listening to the Introvert Love Podcast brought to you by 9th Wave Entertainment. This is Episode # 14: Put a Ring on It
Put a ring on it?
We’ve dated or talked for about 2 years plus ok cool. You let me know all the time you are ready for marriage and remind me to put a ring on it occasionally. Maybe often. But why? Why are you so deserving of a ring already? What have you done to sweep your man off your feet to make him want to feel like man I should put a ring on it right now! Sex comes and goes and your loyal for the most part great. I’m sorry but that’s enough for me. And I know it’s more non-traditional. But, I have to look at what’s best for me. So, let’s keep it all the way 100 on why you are not getting the ring right now. And I feel like most men in similar positions can agree. What’s my particular situation. Well if I’m used to providing for myself and taking care of myself: cooking, cleaning, paying bills, etc. and then a woman comes along that I’m interested. Who’s adding more value to that person's life. What else are you bringing to the table. Teaching me. What can I learn from you as you seem to be the one always learning or taking knowledge from me.
And so from you most I get is sex, some convo, loyalty and you make yourself available. But going back to earlier episodes. Do you even know me? Do you support my hobbies and interests? Are you involved with helping to build an empire? What is your role and how are you holding down? Is it always about you?
Where and what you want to eat, watch, do? Who’s sacrificing the most out of their time and money from their pocket to make things happen and provide the fun. If your the type of woman who sits back and lets her man do and work everything by himself and your not the strong woman behind every great man. And he’s his own and biggest moral support. Then it’s no wonder why you don’t have that ring yet. And why should you?
See surprisingly enough, if we’re not rushing into anything and you want something that’s gonna last and not lead men astray. Then you should be meeting some of these benchmarks which isn’t asking a lot really of the person you claim to know, support and love inside out. But, maybe what you feel all that you do is enough. But, ask. Cuz if your not relieving me of stress, understanding a males struggles and endeavors and really knowing thought patterns then your not deserving of it either and someone else will come in and be the best friend, lover and confidant. Now I know nobody is perfect and nobody can be strong or great at every category but your effort shouldn’t go unnoticed.
So, is it too hard to follow some instructions and attempt to bake a cake or cook? Go out your way to plan something nice for the two of you and come out your own pocket. Surprise them with something. Ask what they want to watch and not complain about it?
My job is to get you to think. Not to persuade you or make you think like me. But, just to question what is around you. Why are things the way they are? Why do people think the way they do about certain things? And challenge them.
So take time today to be more than average. You put the bug in their ear about marriage. Ok. Fine. But, where’s the action leading up to this event that you want. Why should it be you over everybody else? Take a step back and look at yourself or if on the receiving end, do you even feel special, get attention more than just one or two days out the year for your birthday etc. Do you get support and how’s the communication. Are we on each other’s phone all day with poor conversation and interaction because their distracted and focused on everybody else’s lives rather than what’s in front of them. Could they go on without you or do you truly add value to their life.
“Honesty Is A Very Expensive Gift. Don’t Expect It From Cheap People.”
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